The irony of sacrifice...
The word sacrifice means choosing to let go something for the benefit of your partner. I prefer to call it a irony because if you’re giving, you’re focused on what you’ll be getting back. In that case, you’re less likely to get what you want. To word it differently, when you don’t focus on getting back, but act selflessly, you’re more likely to get what you want. But that cannot be the intent(Assuming people are practical)
Sacrifice from commitment can be distinguished.Commitment is making a choice to give up other choices. In sacrifice, one lets go of his or her self-interest for the good of the relationship. However, you can’t be the only one in the partnership making this gesture.
Some parallels
Until a man has made a commitment, he won’t sacrifice himself as much as a woman. But when he finally does commit, his sacrifice is stronger. Conversely, due to the hormonal effects, a woman will form an attachment that will allow her to sacrifice sooner in the relationship but she will then proceed slower.
Y not try the following???
Be more aware of your partner
Accept your mate’s quirks.
Listen when your partner is speaking.
Be willing to forgive offenses or imperfections.
Do something your mate would like to do for fun.
Express gratefulness at any given point which will make relationships healthy.
But yes, a sacrifice would mean that these gestures would be made without letting the other person know you are doing them.
What it boils down to
Clearly, a relationship has to be attended to if it’s going to be satisfying. Yes, there’s work to be done after you decide to commit! And, I think it’s fair to say that if you stay in a partnership where you’re doing all of the giving and getting nothing back, then it is not a healthy relationship. Even when there’s an imbalance because one partner gives way too much, it’s generally indicative of some underlying unhealthy issue.
But it is really important that when you give, you give selflessly, you give in accordance to what the other person needs rather than the way you see the world, and that you are not giving with the intention of getting something back.. its not a barter system of business where you give something and get something in return.
Many people may disagree and believe that this is all really part of making a commitment to another rather than calling it a sacrifice. My question is: “Does it matter what you call it?” To me, what’s important is that you know that you can make the choice to take steps to act differently and that those actions can make a difference. And what’s more, the actions are within you and not ones that require more than basic caring.
Pls note: These are my personal beliefs which may differ from person to person based on situations and circumstances.
